These are from a wonderful book called The Art Of Comforting. Check it out and learn how to be better at supporting people going through difficult things.
Recent experiences have taught me that many people are not at all good at comforting. I’ll have to check this out.
Oof, yes. It’s strange that when you most want to be there and give emotional support for someone (when they’re going through a hard time) is when you end up grasping at straws for the right things to say. Unfortunately there are a lot of cliched canned phrases that end up not really helping very much (“God needed him/her more up there than down here” is the kicker that always infuriates me). These are all super helpful though, and drive home the advice someone once gave me about interaction with a suffering person: express sorrow that this happened to them, express how much you love them, and offer a real practical form of help/assistance in the near future (because saying “call me if you need to talk” is not the same as bringing them dinner or giving them a ride somewhere).